Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Happy Easter!

         


 There is something about spring that always makes me smile.
I love waking up early and feeling the "Spring" air.  There is something about it.  I am suddenly transported back to my childhood  and walking to the bus stop on my way to Douglass Elementary school in Boulder, Colorado.



 It was the time of year you could stop wearing the big winter coat, and the clompy boots.   I didn't have to wear tights with my dress anymore and I could put shorts on underneath....( A key necessity for playing on the monkey bars!)  The grass started to turn green. Flowers were starting to poke through the cold, hard ground.


The birds were all around and different chirps serenaded me down the dirt road, over the bridge by the ditch and off to the bus stop in front of the Batstone's corral.   The sun felt different.  The air smelled different.

      Perhaps it was the fact that Easter was around the corner.  There were a couple of things I remember about easter.   My mom would drag out the Easter baskets out of the attic.  They would have the same plastie eggs in them with the same grass.  (sometimes the same black jelly beans in from the last year, if you were not careful!)  A new chocolate bunny,  refilled eggs, a coloring book, crayons and underwear and socks. I am not sure when the Easter Bunny became obsessed with my need for new underwear, but I suppose my mother's worries of me having on clean underwear in case I was in a car accident spurred that on......  Anywho, that was the contents of the Easter Basket.    The dreadful part was still to come.  My mother, would go out and get me a frilly, fluffy dress with a matching white purse and white gloves.

Now, my mother knew me. She knew I was much more inclined to play with GI Joe than Barbie. She knew I would rather shoot beer cans off the fence pole with my dad than knit.   She knew I would would ride my bike 50 miles an hour down the hill over baking a cake anytime.  Yet, every year, I would come home from school to this Easter Dress torture device.  The fabric might as well have  been steel wool.  It was itchy, it was stiff and it was horribly uncomfortable.  Then there was the gloves and purse set.    She would expect me to head to church on Sunday with these gloves on that would prohibit me from even my ability to open the car door.   The purse?  This thing could not even carry a pack of gum, let alone a basketball.  Why did the people at Fashion Bar hate little girls?   The good part of Easter was a ham dinner, mashed potatoes and homemade rolls, and the second you could get out of that scratchy dress and get into some real clothes.   


Now?  

I would love to have my mother over for dinner.  I could make a pretty decent ham and potatoes, but I would ask her to bring the homemade rolls or she would just be getting the heat and serve ones from King Soopers.  She has been gone for almost 34 years. 


 I am lucky to have my dad at my house with me.  He will appreciate the ham dinner, the hard boiled eggs and he won't notice the non-homemade rolls.    I won't have a lot of Easter dinners left with him.  I will enjoy them while I can. 


But my thoughts now turn to Christ.  The thoughts of that day when he died on the cross and suffered horribly.  The sadness of my own weaknesses and faults but then to his kindness and love for me, and for everyone.   My thoughts turn from the cross to the empty tomb.  To the thoughts that he is risen again and that he has conquered  death.   With that news, I can have hope to see loved ones who have gone before.  That is great news.  That is sit in the scratchy dress news.  That gives me hope and purpose to know that Christ expects me,  gloves, purse and all, to make a difference.   He knows we all can make a difference, one random woman at a time.  



Enjoy a video entitled "He Is Risen" from the
 Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
And Happy Easter!!  



Sunday, January 20, 2013

The parable of the Wontons

Chinese food......  One of my favorites.  I am not too picky.
I like Royal Wok for the quick lunch buffet for $6.20.
I like Orange chicken from Panda Express.
 I like Fong Garden because they deliver.

Thursday after a long day at work Travis and I decided to phone in an order to Royal Wok and pick it up on the way home for dinner.  After some discussion on what Hank would like, Travis called in our order and we headed up to North Main Street to pick it up.  I sent Travis in with some cash and then sent a couple of quick emails out while I waited in the car.  Travis came out with a large box that seemed way to big for our order, but didn't think much of it.  We headed to home.

Travis and I continued to chat, when my curiosity got the best of me at the stop light.
"What did you order again Trav?"  I ask.
"Sesame Chicken, Beef Lo-mein,  Beef and Broccoli, white rice and wontons." He says.
 I glance back to the large box in the back seat of my car....   I reached back and opened one of the top Styrofoam box.  The box contained 10 wontons.
"Um, Trav, how many wontons did you order?"  I ask.
"I asked for 5." he says.
I open the next Styrofoam box and see another 10 wontons.   I count the Styrofoam boxes..... there are 5.   I begin to laugh.
"Honey, I think we have 5 ORDERS of wontons, instead of 5 wontons."
Travis spins around and looks at the back of the car.
"No way!"  He says.

We pull into the garage and carry the box into the house where upon further inspection, we see that there are, in fact, Five boxes of wontons.  50 wontons for me, Travis and my 84 year old father.



We had a good laugh, and I thanked  Travis for the smile he gave me.   Luckily, he has a good sense of humor and the wontons will live on in family folklore.  But it got me thinking....


"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place"  
                                                                                                          George Bernard Shaw 

Travis thought he ordered one order of five wontons.  The person on the other end of the line heard five orders of ten wontons.  How often do we not communicate very clearly with each other? How often do we think we know exactly what the other person meant?

So many problems could be avoided if we had better communication with each other.  I know I often struggle with listening, understanding, not assuming things and allowing my bias or perspective to cloud the conversation.   I avoid conflict and sometimes don't want to have the difficult conversations because I am not sure how to have them.   I keep working on them.  Little steps by little steps I try harder to be a better communicator, because relationships are worth it.  People are worth it.   When you are struggling to understand someone,  think of the parable of the wontons.   Are you saying what you really mean?  Are you hearing what the other person really is saying?   Sure, our 50 wontons was a pretty painless price to pay for a moment of miscommunication,  but sometimes, the stakes are a lot higher. 

How about our communication with our Heavenly Father?  Do we really communicate with him though meaningful prayer, or do we toss out our order for 5 wontons?  Improving our communication with our Father in Heaven is a great step to really learning how to talk to someone.  God loves you.  He wants to hear from you, and he wants to talk and understand your needs and concerns, joys and happiness.  Improving the communication there will have a huge impact on our life.

Communication.  We can all take a minute and do a little bit better job., and in the process, we will all make a difference in our amazing world,  one random woman at a time. 

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas 2012

2012 



Christmas morning in Colorado.  

We woke up to a white Christmas, which is always beautiful to see the sun glistening on the mountains.  It's been a wild few weeks.  We had the Sandy Hook school shootings,  we had the Mayan end of the world predictions that did not happen,  we had shootings at a mall, shootings down the street and yesterday firemen were shot and killed responding to a fire.  There does not seem to be peace on earth, nor much good will to men.   My heart is sad.  It is sad for the people who have Christmas morning today with funeral plans, or empty places at the dinner table.   I can hardly stand to turn on the TV to see the news.  Heartache seems to be everywhere. 

But I am going to continue to look for the good.  I am going to dig deep to find positive in our world because it truly is everywhere.  If you are on twitter- check out the hashtag #RandomActsOfKindness and see what nice things people are doing for each other.  They are not huge things.  Little things.  Friday,  the cashier at Walgreens who asked me if I had used a coupon for my pictures I was picking up.  I said "no," so she proceeded to take 30% off my bill with an in-house coupon.  Did she need to do that?  Nope.  Was she busy, frazzled and working long hours at the end of the Christmas shopping rush? Yup.  But she took the extra few minutes to save me some money, and I appreciate that.  People are paying for each other's groceries, drinks at Starbucks and other fast food restaurants.  People are helping folks rebuild their houses from Hurricane Sandy.  My SCLA kids are making paper snowflakes for us to mail to the students at Sandy Hook.  There is good everywhere.  It just isn't as graphic to report on. 

Last night I was able to skype with my grandkids and read them "the night before Christmas."  How awesome is that?  Sharing a wonderful Christmas story with my three darling grandkids in Iowa is an amazing thing.  Thank you technology. 






 Good is all  around.  Good will continue to be all around us even when bad is ranging.  It is just up to us to look a little harder, stop and listen a little more closely and seek to find him who helps us find peace.  Our Savior, Jesus Christ.  Now I know not everyone believes in Christ.  I respect that.  For me, personally, he is the source of peace and joy in a troubled world.  No religious rants, no hellfire and brimstone sermons here, just me and my quiet knowledge that he lives.  My knowledge that babe born in Bethlehem and whose birth we celebrate today is real. He was born, he lived.  he died.  He rose again on the third day.  And he is painfully aware of our sadness, our trials and our trouble.  He is there ready to walk beside us, and if necessary, carry us for a part of the journey.  He waits at the door for us to invite him into our lives.  He is welcome in mine. 

His Name Shall Be Called Wonderful by Simon Dewey


Merry Christmas world.  Find joy. Find happiness amid the rubble and the trouble.   Let's take care of each other.  Let us look for ways to bring kindness back into our world that is so filled with hate, anger and sadness.  We can do it.  We can do it one random woman at a time. 





Saturday, November 24, 2012

Thankful me

Another Thanksgiving has come and gone. 
Time for my traditional "I am sure Thankful for" list.  


*In no particular order*


  •  
  • My new husband (Still fun to say..... husband..!!! )
  • My kids and their spouses 
  • My new step kids (and to not using the word "step" at our house) 
  • My grandkids 
  • My dad, Hank 




  • Toilet Paper 
  • Diet Dr Pepper 
  • Sunsets in Colorado 
  • Friends, near and far  
  • That I don't live in China where they took my shirt away



  • The Gospel of Jesus Christ and my membership in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints 



  • Steak on the grill 
  • Wii bowling 

 
Silver Creek High School and my awesome job with awesome co-workers and awesome students.  (I work with teenagers, it's like, awesome!) 
  

  • music 
  • playing dumb games with my adult children 
  • airplanes that get me to Iowa in 1 1/2 hours
  • Skype / Facetime 
  • Cars 
  • Grocery stores with way more than I need 
  • DVR 
  • House Hunters International 
  • Hot Tamales 
  • Twinkies...... RIP
  • Hoodies / sweatpants (bless you!) 
  • Cell phones 
  • Sweet tarts 
  • Movie Popcorn 
  • smelly candles 
  • sand between my toes (again, soon??  Please?) 




There are way more things to list than humanly possible.  But this is a good, short list to work from.   

Happy Thanksgiving.  
Be Thankful for all the things in your life.  When you start counting, its amazing what that list looks like, and then you are able to make a difference, one random woman at a time.  



 

Thursday, November 1, 2012

NOTHING BETTER THAN FAMILY!

Family!

The ones we love with all our hearts! The ones we can't live without.  The ones that drive us nuts.  The ones that evoke all the emotions we never knew we had.  We can't live with them, and we can't live without them!  All of the best jokes come from our family.  Today I am so grateful for them!  They truly make my life complete.    Two shout-outs to family today.

Happy Birthday Kelly!

Today is my sweet daughter's birthday.  I love her smile, her spunk, her passion, her fire.  I love her kindness.  She is a wonderful sister, aunt and daughter.  Our family is lucky to have her.  

Next- I just got back from helping my other daughter, Erin, and her family while she had surgery.
This was a fun filled week in Iowa helping out with grandkid carpools, dinner, shopping, laundry, hospital waiting, ball games, preschool, movies and fun.  This is what the true meaning of family is, the chance to be around when things get a little rocky and we need a little help.  I'm so glad I was able to be there! 

My new heroes for the kind of Grandma I want to be are Mike and Esther Kohn,  parent's of dear friends of mine.  I spent 11 amazing days in China with their son and daughter-in-law Adam and Lauren.  While we were traipsing around  China, Mike and Esther were holding down the fort in Colorado with their two grandchildren.  They didn't just keep the house from burning down, the kids from starving and out of the emergency room, they did cool stuff with them..... Library, museum,  swimming pool, ice cream, you know, cool grandparent stuff.  Then they made the kids a great book of all the fun times they had with them.  Grandparents like that should get an award or at least a few minutes on "The View."  I want to be them when I grow up.

So while I was in Iowa, I tried to be Mike and Esther.  I came up with a few random thoughts that I thought I would share with you.

#1 Mornings are not for everyone!



The first morning I was there, my daughter had to be at the hospital early for surgery.  I took over morning duties, getting kids ready for daycare, pre-school and school, then headed off to join my son in law at the hospital waiting for Erin to come out of surgery.   My grand daughter was happy, perky and all smiles as we got dressed and did hair.  My grandson, on the other hand,  would have preferred I was sucked off the face of the earth.  When we brought out the camera he was even less impressed with me.  Funnily enough, the roles changed by the end of the week, with my little man the happy perky one, and me having to drag my granddaughter out of bed and nearly get her dressed asleep (which is like putting jello in a ziplock bag.....)   I know exactly how they feel. Some mornings I am up and ready to tackle the world, and other mornings.....well, don't talk to me, and get me a Diet Dr. Pepper stat. 

#2 Do Things For Others  


When you get a chance to do something for others, jump on that chance.  It won't come around again.   My 4th grade grandson was celebrating "America Reads day" while I was in Iowa.  He asked me to come to read to his 4th grade class.  While I thought of all the the things I should be doing
(Laundry, helping Erin, cooking, etc)  There was really nothing more important than taking time to read "The Monster at the End of the Book" with furry, lovable Grover to my grandson's class.  The smile on his face as he introduced his grandma from Colorado......Priceless.

#3 Give Comfort 


Funny thing about spending time in Iowa... I was supposed to be there to help Erin and comfort her.  Guess what happened?  My soul was comforted and I was the one who was blessed and uplifted.

#4 Want to feel good? See what great parents your kids are when you see your grandchildren smile. 
 




Nothing fills your heart more than seeing your grandchildren, happy, healthy, smiling and loved.  With all the Chaos in the world, walking into my daughter's home in Iowa where it is a home filled with love and peace is an amazing thing.  Don't take that for granted.   Thank your children for raising great children.  We all know how tough a job that is, especially in today's world.   Stop what you are doing today and give them a hug and thank them for raising such great kids.

#5 Shout out to the one who married your kid. 


I can't tell you how much I love my son in law, John.  First of all, he married into our family, so he deserves a medal of honor just for that one, brave act.  He puts up with my daughter, who, occasionally acts just like me.  But the number one thing I admire about my son in law? He is a GREAT dad.  In an era where the importance of fathers is disregarded on all sides, I am proud of my son in law for the time and effort he puts in to being a dad.  He is a hands on dad who works all day and comes home and works all evening.   Heck, he put up with me being there all week, how awesome is he?

#6 Life is short, take a big bite 

 Buy the big, hand dipped corn dog for your grandson.  Buy one for yourself.  Life is short. Take a big bite out of it and enjoy every moment.  Look for chances to make memories, to show you care!  Don't pass up an opportunity by being "too busy" to help, to serve, to be happy.  


#7 There is beauty all around, when there's love at home


Who knew the sunsets in Iowa were so beautiful?  Who knew sitting out on the porch on a fall evening was so quiet and peaceful?  My trip to Iowa was a wonderful break from my hectic world.   I LOVED spending time with my people.  I love my daughter and my son in law, and my three grandchildren are amazing, spectacular and fabulous.  Kiss your kids today.  If they are far away, call them, send them an email, or a text and tell them you love them.  Look for the reasons you are proud of them and help them make a difference in the world!  I am going to try a little harder to see the opportunities to make a difference too, even if I am just one random woman. 



Monday, October 15, 2012

Where the heck have you been?

It's almost embarrassing to have your blog alone and neglected for so many months.

 I suppose if I offer the excuse that I got engaged and married in the past few months maybe you will cut me some slack?  Well- a shout out to fellow blogger www.notthebabysmomma.com who motivated me to get writing again. So here we go! 



So what happened to me?  I was a happy middle age single woman.  I was plotting my trips to distant locations.  I was looking forward to hanging with my friends, taking my grandkids to Disneyland.   I had embraced the fact that it was more likely that I would be killed by a terrorist before I would get remarried.   Then a blast from the past came back. 


Jim grew up in Colorado.  We went to church together.  We went to Fairview High School together until I came to my senses and transferred to Boulder High.   I remember Jim driving his convertible with his blonde hair blowing in the wind.  We danced at a stake dance,  dancing to "Stairway to Heaven."   I knew Jim's parents.    We connected on facebook and began chatting.   I should have seen it coming! 




 Suddenly I am chatting on the phone, texting and becoming a sappy little girl.  On a trip to Texas to visit him, he smiles, pops to one knee and asks me to marry him and I knew then my life would never be the same, in a really good way. 



So catch you up to October.  I'm married, living in Colorado, and my husband lives in San Antonio, Texas.   We have 9 kids between us.  We have 4 grandkids.  I still am not sure of how many siblings, cousins, step siblings, aunts, uncles, and any other random relatives that I am not sure about.  (So yea, I have a LOT of material to cover now!)







So here we go.  My adventure begins and I will be dragging Jim along.  He has already shown he can tolerate my craziness by wearing orange converse shoes and leis to our Colorado outdoor wedding, So I am pretty sure there is not much more I can do to surprise him!


 I am grateful for my sweet family, Erin, John, Bodie, Brynlie, Brycen, Mike, Christine, Kelly, Levi, TJ and Travis.  I am grateful for my new family, Jim, Josh, Natalie, Kade, Jake, Joe and Jordan.  I am grateful for my dad, and for Jim's parents, Sam and Sally, and Caroline and Bud.  For his brothers and their wives, and children.    Thank you for being accepting, loving and rolling with the punches.   Just the few small steps I have taken in my new role as wife, step-mother and daughter in law among others has taught me we really all can make a difference, one random woman at a time.